When the big day finally arrived for me and Lynn to tie the knot at Sand Rock Farm in California, it was a moment we had been planning for eight months. Were these months filled with easy decisions, minimal family influence and uncontrollable laughter? No, that’s not what wedding planning is; however, I wouldn’t have changed a thing.
Before we get to the big day, let’s back up a little. This is my first wedding, and I think I have good ideas on strategy (but until my third or fourth, I won’t really know – kidding, of course!). I recommend that every soon-to-be-wed couple figure out what your wedding priorities are; this will help you stay focused.
The most important thing for us was to make the wedding an event. We wanted to spend time with our guests for multiple days, because one night is just a nicely dressed gathering. Many days – now that’s a party! We also decided to really focus on the details, because that is what makes the wedding memorable. How many weddings do you actually remember more than the ceremony, the bar, the flowers and general flow of the event? Unique details are what make the occasion truly special.
At our wedding, we wanted our favorite things represented for everyone to enjoy. We decided we would be married at an old farmhouse bed and breakfast under a giant redwood tree. We wanted to dine in a wooded meadow and dance in a former wine barrel-aging cellar, overgrown with moss and strung with glowing ivory-colored Chinese lanterns.
My groomsmen wore grey tuxes, and the bridesmaids wore navy dresses. Lynn picked our flowers; they were orange, pink and ivory, with green things, which looked pretty good with our outfits and the setting. Lynn tells me her wedding gown was Ivy & Astor (tailored by Susan Ruddie, a seamstress in Brooklyn known as theweddingdresser). The bridal veil was handcrafted by Susan and team as well, and her accessories included a beaded capelet by Ivy & Astor, a small diamond pendant necklace, and a rhinestone hair comb.
I gave out daypacks with fifths of Jack Daniels inside to my groomsmen (note: these would later become highly prized possessions once the specialty cocktail had run out.) The bridesmaids received gold pendants hand-engraved with their initials on a gold chain.
We found an antique mirror on Etsy that we used to create a large-format menu display, which we hung from the rafters at the front of the buffet line. We also made the craft paper table assignments, edged by “lace” Martha Stewart paper punches. We displayed the table assignments on a clothesline with mini wooden clothespins. For our place settings, we used mismatched antique china. Matching craft paper table numbers were held aloft on hand-made birch holders (inspired by Etsy, made by my dad).
For dinner we blended American comfort food and Vietnamese cuisine. We served passed hors d’oeuvres and had an artisanal cheese station, a variety of sandwiches and salads (including Banh Mi, Green Papaya slaw, and Bo Luc Lac), and macaroni and cheese.
For dessert, we knew we didn’t want a wedding cake. We contemplated cupcakes and pies and having an assortment of cookies/brownies or ice cream sundae bar. Then it came to me: the only thing better than cake is fried cake dusted with sugar and frosting and sprinkles and nuts and chocolate! We love doughnuts, so we designed a delicious doughnut forest of birch doughnut “trees” that matched the table number holders.
Another sweet treat was the colorful candy bar a friend assembled as a surprise for me, featuring all of my favorite candies, especially Now and Laters. Guests could eat them anytime during the wedding and take some home in little clear bags. An uncle of mine later concluded that one of the reasons the wedding was so fun is that every grown-up had been served his or her fair share of cocktails and that every kid was on a sugar high.
The night wrapped up with a shuttle bus to the after-party at the local Best Western, where we joined up with another wedding reception and the high school reunion of the Class of 1982. It couldn’t have been better – it was the best, most memorable party of our lives, and every day since has been better still. Lynn says if we could do one thing differently it would be MORE DOUGHNUTS!
All photographs by Celeste Duran Photography.
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Sign in to add your ownSarah Abel says:
I love the doughnut idea!
11 years ago
Monica from loliscreations says:
I love the photos! :)
11 years ago
aressa from OriginalBridalHanger says:
Awesome idea to have the donuts instead of cake. I have never heard of doing this. Kudos to making you wedding just the way you wanted it....That's what it is all about!
11 years ago
Kelly from LucyRoseDesigns says:
What a beautiful wedding, love the candy bar!!
11 years ago
Kelly from LucyRoseDesigns says:
What a beautiful wedding, love the candy bar and doughnuts!!
11 years ago
Ali Manning from VintagePageDesigns says:
I love all the sweet treats at this wedding - donuts and candy, you can't go wrong.
11 years ago
Eva from EvaJune says:
I love the donuts and candy. This wedding is positively whimsy.
11 years ago
timelapse from timelapse says:
Absolutely wonderful in every detail! May you have a lifetime of love!
11 years ago
Aristocrafts from Aristocrafts says:
Such a colorful and fun wedding! You can just feel the party spirit and all the happiness that the bride and groom radiate :)! I simply love the doughnut idea! Thank you for sharing your wonderful story and wedding, and may you have a lifetime of "sugar high" of love and happiness!
11 years ago
HandiworkinGirls from HandiworkinGirls says:
Extremely fun! The mix of elegant and bright pieces is beautiful, and of course, the doughnuts are brilliant. Love the idea. Congratulations to you both!
11 years ago
TheKraftRoom from TheKraftRoom says:
I love the doughnut idea, very cool.
11 years ago
Colleen Quisenberry from LavenderRoseAcc says:
What a wonderful wedding! I love the I do forks!! You had so many great details for your wedding I love them all! Wonderful photography too. Congrats.
11 years ago
creativeclassics from creativeclassics says:
The table of sweets is a brilliant idea! Your wedding sounds like a really fabulous event, I hope you have many happy years together. Congratulations! x
11 years ago
Jennifer Vonachen from McGrawandtheGirls says:
How beautiful! Love the candy bar and the doughnuts! Also love the outdoor setting. The mason jars with flowers hanging from the shepherd's hooks down the aisle was very pretty! Congrats to you both!
11 years ago
Briana from FoxburyAndCo says:
Every detail of this wedding is a personal reflection of the couple, just lovely and so much fun! Congratulations!
11 years ago
Sarah and Ryan Parker from MilkandHoneyLuxuries says:
What a beautiful wedding! I was ogling the gorgeous photographs and nearly fell out of my chair when I saw the picture of my "I Do/ Me Too" forks!! When I send these out to customers I often wonder how the couple will choose to use them (a gift? cake display? the first bite of dessert?), so being able to see them in action has meant the world to me! Congratulations to you both. Wishing you a lifetime of bliss! Best, Sarah
11 years ago
Matejka Max from NattyMatty says:
Fascinating! All the best!!!
11 years ago
Mary Lezcano from BellaBboutique says:
I love the setting of your wedding, under the redwoods, outside in a beautiful forest, it's amazing. The charm was definitely in the doughnuts though! Beautiful wedding you two, congrats!
11 years ago
truecolorprints from truecolorprints says:
What a wonderful wedding! Congratulations!
11 years ago
craftee1 says:
seriously fun.
11 years ago
Som from somsstudiosupplies says:
What a fun wedding you had! Wish you a lifetime of sweet memories!
11 years ago
Lindsay from SweetThreesBoutique says:
Love the doughnut idea! And your dress was beautiful! Love the lace cap sleeves!
11 years ago
Amy Gunderson from amysfunkyfibers says:
Wow! What a beautiful setting for a wedding. I love all of your details as well,you really have a lot of neat memories already!
11 years ago
Melissa from WellRavelled says:
Love this! We served doughnuts at our wedding too!
11 years ago
Patrick from EdelweissPost says:
So darling this wedding & this couple are~
11 years ago
Christina Cassidy from tinaswaycrochet says:
wonderful and so thoughtful ...;)
11 years ago
Terry from Parachute425 says:
Beautiful details! Congrats and Best Wishes.
11 years ago
Catherine Sorensen from MeadowlandDesigns says:
Its wonderful how you stayed focused & fearless in combining all the different parts that make a wedding so beautiful & easy to remember. Congratulations & may you always choose to love each other! ~ Catherine
11 years ago
Sheila McBryde from vintagejewelryanew says:
Absolutely wonderful! The details make it so special and unique. It will truly be a day that will be remembered by you and your guests! Best wishes.
11 years ago
Shola from YarningKnots says:
Love and doughnuts; could I ask for a better combination?
11 years ago
J.K. Ramirez from HudsonBlueArtisans says:
What a great combo... Congratulations and best wishes. Good photography too.
11 years ago
LivingVintage from LivingVintage says:
Congrats! Looks like a great event.
11 years ago
Darren from naturalwooddesign says:
Beautiful wedding!! Love the doughnut idea too!! Congratulations guys!! :)
11 years ago
Jess Masters from RefinedRock says:
Gorgeous wedding!
11 years ago
Kimberlee from GracefullyGirly says:
I love your mirror menu and all the pretty details! Sounds like a fun and personal event, for sure. Congrats!
11 years ago
Annette from TheLeveretsNest says:
ha ha! so much fun :) love your donut trees and all the fun things and the parties! wishing you both the bestest :)
11 years ago
Shanay Worthy from ShanaysCreation says:
Congrats. This is the best wedding idea I have ever seen. It's really unique.
11 years ago
cyndalees from cyndalees says:
Yum Donuts and Candy, How sweet! Lovely Wedding:)
11 years ago
messinabella from BandBEstate says:
Great wedding, plus <3 the donuts!
11 years ago
Natalia from KMalinkaVintage says:
This is a great wedding idea. It's really lovely.
11 years ago
Prayer Notes by Cynthia from PrayerNotes says:
I love the whole kit and kabooble! Everything looks festive, joy-filled and colorful. Congratulations and may your days be filled with love and joy! ~Cynthia
11 years ago
IKA PARIS from ikabags says:
What a wonderful wedding ! Congratulations !
11 years ago
Julie from NakedRatDestash says:
Wonderful wedding! I love the photography. Donuts...mmmm!!
11 years ago
Tracy from designlab443 says:
Mmmmm donuts! Congrats to you both!
11 years ago
Monica from ThreeBarDGifts says:
Looks like a fun and memorable wedding! Congratulations to both of you!
11 years ago
Nakkashe from Nakkashe says:
You are a sweet couple, wish you the best of everything ! Love the bridal gown .... Congratulations
11 years ago
Hannah B from BridalEmbroidery says:
Very Beautiful
11 years ago
Sukran Kirtis from SukranKirtisJewelry says:
great details, amazing photos. I especially love the mirror. Best wishes,
11 years ago
Kate from WillowandQuinn says:
fun, fun, fun!! congratulations!
11 years ago
blurrybeth says:
made me cry....beautiful, fun, sincere. love it all. best to both f you! xo
11 years ago
blurrybeth says:
Both OF you ;)
11 years ago
Keatra from PattonPrints says:
Such a lovely wedding. Best wished to both of you! Makes me want to throw a big bash every year :)
11 years ago
Nancy from PiacereMioPaperie says:
Now that is fun! I agree with your uncle!
11 years ago
Rita Riebel Mitchell from Jularee says:
Congratulations on a wonderful wedding. Thanks for sharing your ideas. Best wishes for much happiness and love!
11 years ago
Martina from PotteryHeaven says:
Beautiful! Love the doughnut idea:)
11 years ago
David and Patricia from dellcovespices says:
Very sweet! (No pun intended.)
11 years ago
DewyMorningVintage from DewyMorningVintage says:
You had me at doughnut! :) Really great ideas! Your wedding looked amazingly beautiful! Thank you for sharing!
11 years ago
Holly from ExpressYourJourney says:
getting married is a dream fulfilled... doing it with donuts is just heavenly! congratulations and all the best! ps i love the little love birds with your rings photo.
11 years ago
Sarah from perebags says:
Adorable! Thanks for sharing!!
11 years ago
Tom and Jennifer Tyndall from RedHeartCreations says:
Weddings and doughnuts! I love them both! ;)
11 years ago
VaLon Frandsen from thevicagirl says:
Oh, it looks like you have so much fun! Congrats!
11 years ago
Denise Vining from kadydesigns says:
Congratulations!! I love all the unique details of your wedding!! Beautiful!
11 years ago
Stephanie Maslow Blackman from metalicious says:
Congratulations! What a gorgeous wedding, so inspirational! And who could resist those donut trees.
11 years ago
Maryrose Alviso from ipicnic says:
Loved the theme! Did you get your make up or hair done! I loved them both and I am getting married very close to where you did.
11 years ago
Hendri . from butikonline83 says:
Lovely...
11 years ago
Doris C. from SewBeautifulbyDC says:
Beautiful wedding ! I love your photos. Congratulations !
11 years ago
Renee Yu from myjunebugg says:
those are the sweetest pictures I've ever seen of a wedding :)
11 years ago
JewelryIdeaSupplies from NELEEK says:
Lovely
11 years ago
Kim Opoku-Ansah from StitchLightly says:
What a fun wedding! Love the doughnut and candy ideas! Best wishes to you both.
11 years ago
Jessica Allison from Jessicasbridal says:
So fun! Doughnuts and candy! Beautiful setting, you guys must have had soooo much fun. Congratulations and best wishes for you guys!
11 years ago
Helen Dixon from EuphorbiaFloral says:
How nicely put together and I love all of the hand crafted touches.
11 years ago
Neta Wolpe from netawolpe says:
What a beautiful story!! i love the idea of the unconventional wedding and that you made the day all about the two of you, which is the way it should be.
11 years ago
Clipping Path Work House says:
Wow!!! Nice...Real Weddings.
11 years ago
Dwnlow says:
Wicked wedding so fun!!! mmm doughnuts lol
11 years ago
Amy Swift from Allensbridal says:
The stunning pictures absolutely tell us that how gorgeous the wedding is.
11 years ago
Elvira from omydesigns says:
You can tell a lot of thought went into this wedding - the pretty details, the yummy doughnuts, the beautiful flowers - and the result was just stunning!
11 years ago
emberair from EmberandAir says:
Love the wedding! Especially the doughnuts! So many different creative possibly DIY projects!
11 years ago
Amy Swift from Allensbridal says:
It's really a gorgeous wedding. All the details of the wedding are great. I want to get a wedding like this style.
11 years ago
AntonellaMia from AntonellaMia says:
"Unique details are what make the occasion truly special" ...You are totally right!!
11 years ago
Branda. Wen. from Brandastudio says:
Wow!!! Nice...Real Weddings.
11 years ago
Luan Rongwei from Fanhua says:
Nice >>>>>>>
11 years ago
Amanda Trietley from ShopWithPassion says:
How cute!!
11 years ago
Amanda Fortier from MandaleighDesigns says:
The candy did a great job doubling as a photo op =). What a great event! Congrats!!!
11 years ago
Rosanna D'Angelica from WeddedBlissBridal says:
Gorgeous wedding memories so personal ....Just love your donut idea...cute touch
11 years ago
blakebarash from BStreetShoes says:
mmm doughnuts
11 years ago
Mirela Lace Wedding from Laremi says:
Nice decor!
11 years ago
Platinum Collection from PlatinumCollection says:
so pretty
11 years ago
Lakota Luck from LakotaLuck says:
Sweet, very sweet wedding and reception!
11 years ago
lily liao says:
Beautiful wedding ! I love your photos. Congratulations !
10 years ago
Karen from SparrowsTrove says:
Beautiful wedding pictures!
10 years ago
Karen from SparrowsTrove says:
What a beautiful setting!
10 years ago
Virginia from SimsKids says:
What a beautiful wedding .Love everything.
10 years ago
Asnat Kariti from Asnatjewelry says:
What a great idea, loved it all. congratulation!!!!
10 years ago
Steve from UpstateWoodwork says:
Great read!! Congrats on the feature. Always great to read a blog that can help inspire me and the items I create for my shop. Congrats again!!
10 years ago
Lizl from TheSilverStudy says:
Love the mirror menu!! What a beautiful wedding!
10 years ago
Shannon Duffey from MountainMommaGems says:
Very creative! I love the idea of a wedding lasting more than one day. It makes it more memorable, and you actually get a chance to visit with all of your guests, especially those from out of town! I also really love your wedding cake alternative. I commend you for stepping outside of the 'norm' box and doing your own thing. Congratulations!
10 years ago
Julie Lynn from imjulielynn says:
Beautiful!!!!!! LOVE! <3 All that candy looks so yummy too..... ;)
10 years ago
Claire Reed from InOurStar says:
so beautiful wedding,I love the food
10 years ago
Maria Petrovna says:
Perfect wedding! Love dress very much! http://stylebride.com.ua/katalog/svadebnye-platya
9 years ago