So You’re EnGAYged seeks to match LGBT and allied couples with wedding vendors who actively support LGBT rights and freedoms, including, but not limited to, same-sex marriage. By highlighting voices from within the LGBT community, So You’re EnGAYged works to build a supportive source that can dispense advice, recommendations, and support to couples in the wedding planning process. As a writer for So You’re EnGAYged, Ms. Sparrow is delighted to share the handmade details of her own special day.
Before I proposed, I had no knowledge of anything wedding related. I thought all weddings were like those in Bride Magazine or on Oxygen. Then I discovered wedding blogs, and all of a sudden I had a spreadsheet with 200 crafts that I needed to make for the wedding. Yes, agonizing for a month over our invitation design — because maybe our names would look better one millimeter to the left? — drove me a little crazy, but I kind of miss it now. My fiancée, Jen, would joke fun that I viewed our wedding as a craft show, and sometimes I think she was right.
I really wanted our wedding to be the best party our guests had ever been to, as opposed to just a bit of dinner and dancing. Our theme clicked after I saw a wedding on Green Wedding Shoes with a carnival theme. After that, things started falling into place.
I spent a year crafting for the wedding. No joke. I was crafting at least five nights a week, for multiple hours every night. I made all of the tent decorations: pennant flags, origami balloons, centerpieces, pom pom flowers, paper lantern covers, Gocco cocktail napkins, and pinwheel escort cards. I made Gocco canvas bags and mason jars for the favors, and ribbon wands and pomanders were used to decorate at the ceremony. My mother made the table runners, and we had friends who made our bouquets, cake, cupcakes, and cake garland. The one heirloom craft we used was the wedding canopy that my grandmother made twenty years ago for my uncle’s wedding. We bought our rings from Adzias Jewelry Atelier.
Our venue was our biggest splurge. When we saw the Hubbell Homestead, we fell in love with it and knew we had to get married there. It had everything we wanted: a bonfire pit, an outside tent, a hot tub, pool, and a beautiful view of the Green Mountain National Park. Our biggest splurge after the venue was the amusement ride, but it was totally worth it: going on a ride as many times you want with no wait might just be the best thing ever!
We made up our ceremony from bits and pieces we found on the Internet, but it was really important to us to include the Goodridge v. Department of Public Health decision, which allowed same-sex couples to be legally married in Massachusetts. We walked down the aisle to “Sea of Love” by Cat Power and walked back up to our song, “Push It” by Salt-N-Pepa.
To keep our budget in check we used our iPhones to DJ the wedding, we only served beer and wine, Jen and I both wore bridesmaid dresses, and we used a restaurant to cater an Indian food buffet. Spice Root was wonderful, easy to work with, super tasty, and really helpful.
My favorite detail of the wedding was our photo booth. I made myself wait until the night after our wedding to look at the pictures. It made both of us so happy to see how much fun everyone had and the sweet notes that they wrote to us.
Want to learn how to make your own pom poms, drink flags, or fairy lights? Head over to So You’re EnGAYged where you can find DIY wedding projects from Ms. Sparrow and others. Also, the Related Items below are from pro-gay Etsy vendors who have met the rigorous standards set by So You’re EnGAYged.