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Handmade Weddings: Stepping Back from the Planning Hype

Mar 21, 2008

by creationsbylonni

Handmade Wedding Series readers, creationsbylonni offers up some advise for keeping your wedding planning from spirally out of control.

You’re engaged!  You’re excited!  You’re off to do some wedding shopping!  Now you’re… sober.  Wow.  How much?  Everyone told you how expensive weddings were, but you did NOT see that coming.  Remember that scene in Father of the Bride where they went to visit the oh-so charming wedding coordinator for the first time and he garbled out some prices with his barely intelligible accent?  It was funny in the movie, but in real life… not so much.

Don’t get discouraged.  “No” is not a dirty word (it doesn’t even have four letters).  You can use it and still have a wedding with all the style and panache you hope for.  If you arm yourself with some practical resources, and you are honest with your intentions about what’s important to you within the limits of what you can afford, you can plan without stressing and losing your joy.  Focusing on goals like “meaningful” and “personal” can keep you centered amid any chaos.

Let’s talk about some practical resources and some “outside the box” ideas.  Believe it or not, there are some in the wedding industry who actually want to help you SAVE money!  Here are a few suggestions to “gird your loins.”

Books:

Author: Denise Fields
This book is amazing… talk about cut the crap!  There are no pictures, no chi-chi, no frou-frou, just straight talk about what’s REALLY worth paying for and — if it is worth paying for — how to pay as little as possible.  It has some great suggestions for DIY if you just CAN’T pay for it, whether it’s worth it or not.  Read the book that had many in the wedding industry feeling outed and downright upset!
Khris Cochran writes a wonderful blog with all kinds of money-saving DIY projects.  Weddings are an expression of who you are as a couple, and nothing says unique like something you made yourself.  She now has an accompanying book: The DIY Bride: 40 Fun Projects for Your Ultimate One-of-a-Kind Wedding. (Read Khris’ piece in this series.)

Some Ideas on Etsy:
Etsy.com is a wonderful place to find all kinds of supplies and items for your wedding that you won’t find anywhere else.  DIY is wonderful for weddings, but some things may require a skill you just don’t possess or a time commitment you can’t make.  That doesn’t mean you have to go the cookie-cutter route.  There are so many talented artists on Etsy, many of whom will create something one of a kind and just for you at a price that is reasonable using Alchemy.  Have Grandma’s antique necklace transformed into a tiara or reinvented as fresh and modern jewelry.  Use a custom stamp on your wedding stationery with your couple’s initials.  The supplies category has all kinds of unique items to make your DIY project a hit!  You may find yourself struck by inspiration just perusing the site.

Custom Stamps
Vintage Paper
Paper Flowers


Haralequin Romance Flowers Recycled Embellishments

Wedding Blogs:
Wedding Blogs are a great way to get in the loop with the most up-to-date wedding tips and trends.  Have wedding experts at your disposal with these wonderful gems:
  • Bridalwave — Camilla Chafer dishes unusual wedding tips in an irreverent, saucy style
  • The Bride’s Café — Floral designer Janie Medley puts you in the know, interviewing the hottest talent in the wedding industry such as designer Monique Lhuiller and planner Jung Lee, and the pictures are fabulous.
  • What Junebug Loves — Christy Weber sweeps you away with lush, delicious color palettes.  The wedding beauty and fashion tips are always fresh and stylish.  This is a great blog for inspiration.

In planning your wedding, there is no one thing you HAVE to do except say “I do.” The most beautiful weddings are the ones where the couple’s have the most beautiful relationships.  But… great decorations don’t hurt, either.

Here’s a video to watch with your fiance when you guys “need a laugh.” (Warning, if you have a child on your lap while watching this: there are a few naughty words!)

Should you decide to do some DIY projects, here are some…
Further Resources for Supplies:

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4 comments

  • TeenAngster Admin

    TeenAngster said 9 years ago

    LOVE the video. Ha!

  • CaleraJewelry

    CaleraJewelry said 9 years ago

    Great article. My wedding was last month, so the cost shock is still fresh in my memory. Also, there was a LOT of pressure to do things the way other people thought we should...amazing how much more expensive other people's ideas were ;) The best piece of advice we got was to remember is was OUR wedding (and our money) and do what we thought would make the day special for us. Sure, our families tried to get us to go for a bigger, more expensive wedding, and they tried to talk us out of almost every thing we wanted. But, in the end, we didn't compromise. We saved tons of money, we had the wonderful day we wanted, and all the naysayers admitted we were right all along :)

  • shopgoodgrace

    shopgoodgrace said 9 years ago

    Great article! And I loved the video ... an absolute HOOT!

  • livefunky

    livefunky said 9 years ago

    A great article with loads of good advice. Well done!

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