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When 3 p.m. rolls around, it feels like the do-or-die hour: the last chance to clear tasks off today’s to-do list before they pile on tomorrow’s. Your brain sputters out frantic plans: maybe you can get to the post office, answer those emails, and submit the file that has been sitting on your desk before you have to make that meeting at 4:30.

In a popular opinion piece for The New York Times, Tim Kreider looks at the cult of busyness. “Busyness serves as a kind of existential reassurance, a hedge against emptiness; obviously your life cannot possibly be silly or trivial or meaningless if you are so busy, completely booked, in demand every hour of the day.” He argues that busyness is a combination of choices and social pressures to avoid laziness, but that unrelenting activity has its costs: ”The space and quiet that idleness provides is a necessary condition for standing back from life and seeing it whole, for making unexpected connections and waiting for the wild summer lightning strikes of inspiration — it is, paradoxically, necessary to getting any work done.”

“I can’t help but wonder whether all this histrionic exhaustion isn’t a way of covering up the fact that most of what we do doesn’t matter,” says Kreider. Perhaps there is a point at which we force ourselves into a completely packed schedule that is filled with more sweat and tears than its worth. Do we owe it to ourselves to try and find a balance, or should we just accept busyness as a fact of modern life?

Chappell Ellison is a designer, writer and design writer. She currently lives in Brooklyn, New York where she serves as a contributor for The Etsy Blog and design columnist for GOOD.

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  • BowKnots

    Shannon Malaska from BowKnots says: Featured

    I often write lists for the day, to keep me on track so i don't day dream the hours away. But I've found that satisfaction with my day doesn't correlate with number of checked off items. Rather, it depends on the type of items. Doing things like remembering to call my grandmother when I feel like it, writing a good blog entry, or stretching myself creatively help me feel that my days are well used.

    1 year ago

  • lindamiller937

    Linda Miller from Threadbender64 says: Featured

    Our society today has programed us to be busy busy doing things so we look loved and important! Life is about who & what we love. I enjoy each day as it comes, sometimes I get a lot done and other days I just relax and take it all in. I am retired so I can afford to do this, but we all need some down time to rejuvenate our body and soul.

    1 year ago

  • VoleedeMoineaux

    Hillary De Moineaux from VoleedeMoineaux says:

    Very cool. I can totally relate!

    1 year ago

  • VintageEye

    VintageEye from VintageEye says:

    But.....I...what? Do without my to do list? Never! ;)

    1 year ago

  • pressgangsupplies

    Leanne from PressGangSupplies says:

    I know that feeling all to well :)

    1 year ago

  • LivingVintage

    LivingVintage from LivingVintage says:

    It always seemed artifical to me. Everyone has a "friend" who has to check their calendar in detail before they can schedule a lunch. So annoying! No one is really that busy. The busyness is a crutch to avoid looking at the emptyness.

    1 year ago

  • BowKnots

    Shannon Malaska from BowKnots says: Featured

    I often write lists for the day, to keep me on track so i don't day dream the hours away. But I've found that satisfaction with my day doesn't correlate with number of checked off items. Rather, it depends on the type of items. Doing things like remembering to call my grandmother when I feel like it, writing a good blog entry, or stretching myself creatively help me feel that my days are well used.

    1 year ago

  • lauraprilltoo

    Laura Prill from lauraprilltoo says:

    Thanks for another thought provoking post Chappell. I'm thinking that those of us on Etsy who have shops open 24/7 really have a choice to make about how we can best do all of this and still leave time for restorative rest. Sometimes creative ideas are just waiting there in the back of a good book or movie, walk or a good laugh. I just need to give myself permission to step away from my studio and computer.

    1 year ago

  • vintagevestiary

    Linda from TheVintageVestiary says:

    There is definitely a difference between doing things that happen to keep you busy and keeping busy as a matter of just doing things. One has substance, one does not.

    1 year ago

  • Overdue

    Kiova Staley from joyridevintage says:

    So true that idleness is essential to creativity, my "aha" moments always arrive when I force myself to go to the river or take a walk in spite of the insurmountable to-do list. I even suspecting that we sometimes sabotage ourselves with trivial lists dubbed important when we have fear around taking the next unknown or risky steps--this is something I am watching out for in my own list making. Good food for thought!

    1 year ago

  • Iammie

    iammie from iammie says:

    I need to make a to-do list from now on.

    1 year ago

  • CougarTShirtCompany

    Cougar T-Shirt Company from CougarTShirtCompany says:

    I think finances have a lot to do with busyness. The people I know who are so busy are working two jobs, or have kids and jobs, are starting a business... Sometimes it feels like to take time off would result in not enough money to pay rent.

    1 year ago

  • silke5763

    Silke Jordan from howcroftjordanwork says:

    An (unplanned/unsceduled) event changed my (in former times) VERY busy life completely: I discovered 'mindfulness' my way: The approach to live in a way being aware of the REAL importance for me and life! The allowance to 'let go' of sooo important issues, JUST to discover that they will be solved in their own time in a much better way than I could ever dream off !! I learned a lot, still learning ... Very exciting - and very busy in other terms. Thanks for the inspiration !!!

    1 year ago

  • sendasong

    Alice from bygoneglory says:

    I find that often quiet time away from busyness and business is the best boost to creativity. Essential for creativity even. In the quit, one can relax, refocus, and renew, then return to be the best they can be to their customers and their craft.

    1 year ago

  • CarpetShopPrincess

    Katie Koshy from carpetshopprincess says:

    For the folks who have their day jobs, families, friends, and Etsy stores, this article just rings so true. Life is too short to be so busy, but how can we not be? Perhaps the takeaway from this for all of us type-As is that we need to schedule some down time? I suppose I can pencil some of that in somewhere.

    1 year ago

  • WingedWorld

    Vickie Moore from WingedWorld says:

    I skipped a half-day rafting trip last weekend so I could get some extra work done. Now I'm realizing I would be approaching this work week with more energy and enthusiasm if I had had that break out on the river. Yes, it would have been a hassle to get my raft and gear ready and loaded, but it would have been worth it.

    1 year ago

  • sendasong

    Alice from bygoneglory says:

    I agree Kiova Staley - we make lists of things we deem important, yet sometimes it's the simpler things that inspire us that are truly important - in every way. Inspiration is the core of creativity!

    1 year ago

  • thelittlemarket

    Debbie from thelittlemarket says:

    Very true!! Room for thought!!

    1 year ago

  • WhisperingOak

    Quality Handmade Items from WhisperingOak says:

    Interesting. I accept the balance comment. But putting down in words what I wish to accomplish and getting half done is a great satisfaction. Sometimes I pencil in "sleeping in."

    1 year ago

  • AllThatGlittersWraps

    Krista from BeeBuzzPaperie says:

    I appreciate this topic and everyones comments, thoughts and tips. Thank you for the great food for thought!!

    1 year ago

  • CafePrimrose

    Amanda Gynther from CafePrimrose says:

    Great tips!

    1 year ago

  • lindamiller937

    Linda Miller from Threadbender64 says: Featured

    Our society today has programed us to be busy busy doing things so we look loved and important! Life is about who & what we love. I enjoy each day as it comes, sometimes I get a lot done and other days I just relax and take it all in. I am retired so I can afford to do this, but we all need some down time to rejuvenate our body and soul.

    1 year ago

  • LittleWrenPottery

    Victoria Baker from LittleWrenPottery says:

    I always wonder about being busy, reminds me of the dawn of the computer age which in the 70's and 80's promised to free us from work instead we just do two days work in one day... or at least try to

    1 year ago

  • WeeCatCreations

    Susan Caplan McCarthy from WeeCatCreations says:

    Hello, my name is Susan and I'm addicted to to-do lists ...

    1 year ago

  • jadedgoats

    Judy Wright from JudithGayleDesigns says:

    Wow! I think you're onto something!

    1 year ago

  • mattyhandmadecrafts

    Matejka Max from NattyMatty says:

    Great, thanks!

    1 year ago

  • AveryleeDesigns

    AveryleeDesigns from AveryleeDesigns says:

    Very well stated and perfectly timed to my busy life - permission to say no and do less - love it!

    1 year ago

  • Parachute425

    Parachute425 from Parachute425 says:

    I'd comment, but I'm too busy.

    1 year ago

  • meganrosepedals

    Megan Rose from RosePedalsJewelry says:

    "Busy-ness" and being "productive" is what got us and the planet in such a mess. We all just need find a way to work less, consume less, and live more. Its good for you and good for the whole world.

    1 year ago

  • DecadesOfVintage

    DecadesOfVintage from DecadesOfVintage says:

    I often wonder if the measure of busy-ness is mistaken for the measure of life's quality and importance.

    1 year ago

  • HandmadeHandsome

    Tryntsje from HandmadeHandsome says:

    Some say you shouldn't make a list of what to do at the beginning of the day, but a list of what you accomplished at the end of the day. It's more satisfying :)

    1 year ago

  • goodnessb

    goodnessb says:

    I am a slave to the To Do List - love it love it love - never really accomplishing all my items on it but I live by it and swear by it! Jummpin Tip of the Day Vacationing in the Caribbean is one of the best ways to spend lazy summer days. You can laze pool side, sipping on a cool fruity drink (rum optional) while humming away to that soothing sound of reggae or calypso music in the background. Sunscreen is a must – SPF 30 or higher! Check us out at http://www.jummpin.com for things to do while vacationing in the Caribbean

    1 year ago

  • smilingfrogpets

    Angelica Ross from smilingfrogpets says:

    If I don't have a list I mess around all day. If you are your own boss it's necessary. Although sometimes I get a little nit picky about my lists and it ends up being a lot of busy work.

    1 year ago

  • eclectivist

    Kasia from Eclectivist says:

    Thanks for this post Chappell. I've been living very busy life past 6 years and a while back realised I would love to balance things better. To reach this goal I work even more now... Etsy shop I started recently with my mum is (hopefully!) a ticket to a life in which I can do without my full time job and focus on my fine art projects. Obviously, it will come at a price but is certainly worth it. To sweet (occasional) idleness... and getting closer to nature!

    1 year ago

  • honeyhurd

    HurdandHoney Hurd from HurdandHoney says:

    If busyness servers as a hedge against emptiness...the first thing on our list should be to deal with the emptiness.

    1 year ago

  • NoFrump

    Ashley of Pamplepluie from Pamplepluie says:

    I'll be the first to admit that I'm a complete post-it note to-do list addict. (Anyone else out there hooked on stickies on their Mac??) I find that I need them in order to free up my mind enough to dedicate all of my attention (and intention) to the things at hand. However, I never place the expectation on myself to scratch everything off the list. It's in constant flux—inevitably, when I cross a couple things off the list, a couple new things get added on. Some tasks move up in priority over time, and others down. It's quite organic, and luckily, I don't find that my ongoing to-do list interferes with my ability to—on occasion—sit back and just be.

    1 year ago

  • scal12

    Payson A from SecondStarDesignCo says:

    Very interesting article! It's definitely thought-provoking-- maybe I'll take a look at my own to-do list and make some edits soon! Thanks for sharing :)

    1 year ago

  • StarTribe

    Penelope Neil from StarTribe says:

    I love to-do lists, I write them for a day, a week, a month, a year...a life! But after I write them, I number them in order of importance. That way I don't end up doing 6 hours of 'shop for green beads' and forget to do phone calls. I also don't worry if nothing on them gets done. Doing up your life so you feel busy all the time is often a symptom of someone who's avoiding something or has completely lost their direction in life. They've piled all this irrelevant junk into their lives in the hope of blocking out what they don't want to face.

    1 year ago

  • HoodVintageandWool

    Elisabeth Ryan from hoodwool says:

    well said thanks for the article

    1 year ago

  • pinksnakejewelry

    pinksnakejewelry from pinksnakejewelry says:

    I like my To Do's List and the sense of accomplishment I feel when a "to do" is done.

    1 year ago

  • BetaPorHomme

    BetaPorHomme from BetaPorHomme says:

    I try to work as little as is absolutely necessary to have all the rest of time for enjoying life. I try to own as little as possible, no expensive cars, iphones, loans, I have everything what I need to enjoy my life with the loved ones without becoming victim of all the items i own and all the items i would love to own. Maybe it is because I am just 25 or maybe it is because I come from Eastern Europe with more slow pace of life than USA, for example.

    1 year ago

  • guziks

    Stephanie from Phylogeny says:

    Having a day job and an Etsy shop can sometimes seem like voluntary busyness, but I thrive on being busy. It gives me purpose. It makes me appreciate and love the quiet, calm times even more. But, there is an art to busyness. It requires balance and focus to make things seem productive. For me, feeling productive in any of my endeavors is what makes me exhilarated. So, here's to all of the busy bees out there :)

    1 year ago

  • mainetrader

    Robert (Bob) from Mainetrader says:

    You’ve convinced me. I need more time to myself. I’m goin’ fishin’

    1 year ago

  • timelapse

    timelapse from timelapse says:

    Years ago, the country group Alabama did a wonderful song with lyrics to the effect of...'I'm in a hurry and don't know why, all I really have to do is live and die..." So very true. But we have to make sure we live!

    1 year ago

  • AnnBernadette

    Monica Ann Bernadette from AnnBernadette says:

    I am admittedly a busy body, but I also make sure my schedule leaves time for lunch with friends, long runs, art for decompression, and early bed times. This way I'm weaving revitalization into the mix. It's important to me to put all I can into the people and activities I love but I'm working to improve how I take care of myself so I have the energy to give even more.

    1 year ago

  • PrettyCharmingThings

    Cristina Maria from PrettyCharmingThings says:

    "The space and quiet that idleness provides is a necessary condition for standing back from life and seeing it whole, for making unexpected connections and waiting for the wild summer lightning strikes of inspiration — it is, paradoxically, necessary to getting any work done.” (Tim Kreider) This is so true! There, in that space and quiet, we can find our own self, and not in the continuous noise of our modern society. We are being pushed towards the surface more than ever before, we are being pressed by society and jobs more than ever before, and we are starting to feel that life passes us by... It is exactly our life that we have to recover - before it's too late. And I dare say we still have the power to do it! I enjoy reading the "Quit your day job" series also because it conveys that wonderful feeling of taking life in your own hands, of becoming your own master and taking pride in your courage and strength. In all the stories of the series, people express the same good feeling of being able to make their own schedule of life and work, and almost all confess to having become more organized, hardworking and efficient, and enjoying their work as if it wasn't work but pleasure. In fact, it probably is - and this could be one of their secrets for success :) Thank you for publishing this inspiring article, which led to so many interesting comments - of which I would like to address Megan Rose just to tell her she's written down words in my mind: "Busy-ness" and being "productive" is what got us and the planet in such a mess. We all just need find a way to work less, consume less, and live more. Its good for you and good for the whole world." Megan Rose, I deeply wish our children will live in such world!

    1 year ago

  • mfrawley

    Mary Frawley (Calligraphette Ltd) from Calligraphette says:

    My boyfriend just laughs at my lists which often contain things like 'do 100 press ups, get dressed, do new t-shirt design, faff for a bit, etc', but what ever works. xx

    1 year ago

  • PierogiPicnic

    Lydia Krupinski from PierogiPicnic says:

    So need to read this right now - I need to cut that out!

    1 year ago

  • Steampunkitis

    Susan Jane from Steampunkitis says:

    WOW ! Can I relate. Somethin' to think about.

    1 year ago

  • apollinerei

    Jess Wilson from thepolymertwist says:

    Good thing I just wing it.. haha.

    1 year ago

  • GoldenSpiralDesigns

    Lola Ocian from GoldenSpiralDesigns says:

    “I can’t help but wonder whether all this histrionic exhaustion isn’t a way of covering up the fact that most of what we do doesn’t matter." Love it!! It's so true! I spend every minute of my day fidgeting with something, whether it be drawing, creating jewelry, or doing the dishes. I'm such a busy body that when we went camping last weekend, it took me 28 hours to finally figure out how to just sit by the fire and do nothing but watch the smoke billow out against the dusky sky and the stars. When I returned home, it only took about 4 hours to get back to being infinitely busy. I have to remember that none of it matters!!

    1 year ago

  • TheWindowArtisan

    Susan Spurr from InSpurations says:

    G U I L T Y ! I promise to pencil "Sue" time in. P R O M I S E !

    1 year ago

  • wheatleypaperworks

    M Wheatley from wheatleypaperworks says:

    What a terrific post. I believe it's important for me to examine my life for incidences of busywork. I try to get out of my own way occasionally and just let go...Usually that requires my leaving the house entirely and being physically away from the chores and the cooking and the painting...

    1 year ago

  • glusk

    Tara Galuska from GluskDesigns says:

    I have noticed in the past few days that I have been trying to pack about three days worth of tasks into my daily "to do" lists. This is always a sure sign that something is out of balance and I need to remember that I am enough. Thanks for the reminder.

    1 year ago

  • csburdick

    csburdick from callmebrazen says:

    That article was phenomenal and a very pertinent reminder that most "busyness" we impose upon ourselves

    1 year ago

  • lizworthy

    Liz Worthy from lizworthy says:

    The very act of making a to-do list, contrary to rushing around getting things checked off, is a really lovely ritual. I go back and star the items I think are the biggest priority, or have the biggest pay-off. Also, recommending my friend Sasha Cagen's awesome book, To-Do List - http://www.todolistblog.com/p/book.html, for more to-do list reverie.

    1 year ago

  • LouisaCreations

    Louisa Halvarson from LouisaCreations says:

    There is always things to do. Then when you did everything you needed to do you start over again with new things to do. A list keeps your tasks straight.

    1 year ago

  • AkimaBotanicals

    Akima Morgan from AkimaBotanicals says:

    “Busyness serves as a kind of existential reassurance, a hedge against emptiness; obviously your life cannot possibly be silly or trivial or meaningless if you are so busy, completely booked, in demand every hour of the day.” He argues that busyness is a combination of choices and social pressures to avoid laziness, but that unrelenting activity has its costs" Interesting. I find my self so busy sometimes that I end up just sitting and thinking about it, what to do first, how to do it... then I feel lazy because I end up sitting for 30min! This is good reassurance.

    1 year ago

  • joycavins

    joy cavins from EssentialJoyNaturalP says:

    Some health challenges have required me to slow down in recent months. Now, I wonder how did I do so much? I also realized that a lot was pushed back undone and then there were days when I felt overwhelmed with all that needed to be caught up on. Taking a day off once a week is beneficial, and I am refreshed and many times some new ideas.

    1 year ago

  • myMountainStudio

    Nikki Weiss from myMountainStudio says:

    It's all about keeping balance, that's for sure. :)

    1 year ago

  • xZOUix

    Zoui from XZOUIX says:

    i'm a workaholic. it's 3:00am now and i have sooo much stuff to do. like every day/every night, i just couldnt sleep with the knowledge of unfinished work waiting for me.....

    1 year ago

  • PennyBirchWilliams

    Penny Birch-Williams from PennyBirchWilliams says:

    I read this article when it came out, and while I agree with the point of most people being too busy with things that aren't really important, breaking free of it isn't so easy. When you have to work, and take care of a home and family and pets, and are trying to follow a heart's passion which is also a business endeavor, where exactly do you cut back? Ok cleaning the house isn't really important...until the dog fur bunnies are rolling across the floor and the shower curtain is a health hazard. Just saying, it's not easy to be idle when you have a lot of responsibilities, even when you want to just take a day off. So I settle for an hour or two now and then.

    1 year ago

  • liddysopretty

    liddy sopretty from liddysopretty says:

    I'm busy alot, but I know how to take a break!

    1 year ago

  • buttagal

    LC from cafedebutta says:

    great list! i gotta do mine too!

    1 year ago

  • FairyBubbles

    Amanda Michel from FairyBubbles says:

    I can so relate. I work a 60 hour + job on top of my Etsy shop. I live with a ongoing list of things that have to get done, for me its a must have for my days off. Every now and then I do need crash and burn day.

    1 year ago

  • sandstormcreations

    sandstormcreations from sandstormcreations says:

    Don' t know what I'd do without my lists.

    1 year ago

  • thevicagirl

    VaLon Frandsen from thevicagirl says:

    There are so many books and writings on being more productive, and half of them include lists. Interesting enough the other half tell you not to have lists, or to not get distracted by things on the list that you don't really need to do. I go back and forth between when I have lists and when I don't.

    1 year ago

  • pogoshop

    pogoshop from pogoshop says:

    Life is short, especially if we race through our days without taking time to savor them.

    1 year ago

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  • HouseOfMoss

    Alison Comfort from HouseOfMoss says:

    Life is the sum of the things we spend our time doing. I live by my lists, but in a healthy way: I schedule things that I want to be part of my life, as well as those things that just need to get done. So yoga and calling my best friend might squeeze in right next to product photography and cleaning the kitchen. And when I look at my lists, before completing them and after, it helps me to see whether or not my life is in balance.

    1 year ago

  • imogenskyefreeman

    Imogen Skye Freeman from InkPaintings says:

    I used to be busy to justify my existence, because I didn't believe that I had anything to offer than my unrelenting "go". Then something happened to me. I stopped. I couldn't "go" for four months. I grew more into myself and the woman that I am truly, in those still, quiet months than I did in a decade before them. Lao Tzu and Eckhart Tolle really opened my mind to what I was doing and why it was meaningless. Now, my pace is honest, no longer a striving after love and acceptance; I work and play at what started calling "human pace," and though I still use lists, they are for things that I want to do without having to keep them in mind all day (which makes me feel busier than I am). I also take the first 30 minutes after waking in the morning, to give myself the attention and love that I need, so that the rest of the day, I am free to be and do as I please, without (inadvertently) sucking what I need from my man and children. I am completely free to give and give as much as I have to give, without holding back, because I no longer must keep some on reserve because of over-exertion and busy-ness. I want to add that I have moved past the placid state I was in, and regained a real and deep passion that I had no contact with in myself since before I can remember (just assuming it was there, because it is so readily available to me now), and view myself as more of an emotionally expressive, wild woman living freely, radiating love. There is so much more to living than "doing." <3

    1 year ago

  • flamingfuchsia

    flamingfuchsia from flamingfuchsia says:

    Always make time for yourself and your nearest and dearest because one day your time will run out.

    1 year ago

  • NannyMadeandfound

    Melinda from sixtybeansVntg says:

    I really needed to read this! I struggle every day with feeling that I need to be busy to "get things done" Thank you for the reminder that idleness is actually therapeutic and a necessary part of a healthy life

    1 year ago

  • loriely

    loriely from loriely says:

    Thank you ….life is too short ..we all have to stop and smell the roses and what the rain fall from the sky..

    1 year ago

  • CaliPeachInc

    SHARMAINE SHANELLE from CaliPeachLLC says:

    As they say it's really not enough hours to fill the day. But when we think about it, what are we doing to make our day more fulfilling in the rat race to be more productive. I think the key to not being overwhelmed and exhausted is to put more time and energy into what we love and not what we feel forced into doing. Lists are great, but then we may feel like billy crystal in groundhogs day... Food for thought! Great Day Artisans!

    1 year ago

  • Violetteslippers

    Jill from Violetteslippers says:

    How true, how true! I constantly remind myself to slow down and just live. Still learning, but it's much better when you look around and see what life is about, rather than working all the time and running on fumes.

    1 year ago

  • BaxCatandCo

    Kelly from BaxCatandCo says:

    Wow, this is a great post. It's definitely important to take a step back and have quiet times away from the lists, the "to-do"s, the piles of work. Thank you for this post, it's one that I will read more than once as a reminder to myself!

    1 year ago

  • kikiparis

    Dominique Adeli from KidzCreationz says:

    I used to have so many things on my to-do listS that I ended up ignoring them all .....and when I finally did get around to looking at them the deadlines had passed. I would then throw them away, yet somehow everything miraculously managed to get done in spite of it all. LOL :) --- --------- Mom of Dominique

    1 year ago

  • TheLivingArt

    Tim and Anita from TheLivingArt says:

    Great reminder for all of us...and I notice most of the commenters are women BTW. The nurturers of men and children, pets and household. A lot of great comments (hahahaha parachute425. wanted to say that myself).

    1 year ago

  • GardenDaisiesStudio

    Katie from GardenDaisiesStudio says:

    Oh, I needed this! And to read most of the comments :) I know I put social events on the backburner, because I'm always tending to my handmade shop, my vintage shop, catching up on cleaning the house, pulling weeds in the garden, and making sure we have plenty of canned goodies for the winter - ahhhhhh! Sometimes, I just take a sketchbook or a magazine out to the back porch and watch the animals play in the yard. It's nice to take a break from the to-do lists. Much nicer than crossing things off. Funny how that works.

    1 year ago

  • elydiabeth

    Elizabeth Floyd from FruitWoodSymphony says:

    Great article and full of truth. When I go on those busy marathons of superhuman goals and impossible lists, I find that after a few days I become so unproductive that I have no choice but to take time off. I am working on trying to find a balance. I really need to be more patient with myself.

    1 year ago

  • xandaroe

    Lolita from XandaRoe says:

    Alone time...a constant craving...XO

    1 year ago

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  • PrettyBabyMillinery

    Pilar Johnson from PrettyBabyMillinery says:

    that NY times article is great, i forwarded it to several friends - (had received it from a facebook post). it is so easy to trick yourself into filling your time with what makes you busy vs what is actually important. this is also reflected in a great book - "the 4 hour workweek" by tim ferriss, which keeps coming back to the question you need to ask yourself- " is what i am doing really getting me towards my goals, or just making me feel busy?" being aware of those things you do that are your fillers / obstacles towards meeting your goals is important to be aware of. i have completely changed my life from being a stressed out 9-5 in house graphic designer to an at home artist & freelancer, and even though i dont make as much $ as i did in the office, i actually make more overall now, because i dont need to spend so much $ on things to recover from working in an office- massages, take out, etc. i now have time for the things i need to do to keep me sane & healthy - yoga, exercise, good food, sleep, etc. p

    1 year ago

  • crankbunny

    crankbunny from crankbunny says:

    I read that piece when it came out and forwarded it to tons of people. What struck me the most about the piece is also how alludes to environment being a culprit / obstacle to being "actually" productive.

    1 year ago

  • GrayDayStudio

    Abigail Gray Swartz from GrayDayStudio says:

    well put. I also like the idea of asking one's self " Is this a priority?" that helps clear the decks and yet also shows us what hasn't been treated as a priority actually should be... ; )

    1 year ago

  • zenakire

    Zen Akire from ZenAkire says:

    What I've learned the hard way by observing my boyfriend? I am the type of person that needs to get things done.( the sooner, the better) and I would get frustrated with my boyfriend who has absolutely no worry, no time frame or maybe no concept of time. He usually does things at his own pace, gets them done on time and seems happier than me. He always tells me ' what is the rush? it will be done on time? Relax!............ So hakuna matata to all of us, breathe, relax.... we work better that way and enjoy life a little more.

    1 year ago

  • TheBeautyofBoredom

    Gracie from TheBeautyofBoredom says:

    I think a lot of people are preoccupied with being busy, a lot of other people are busy and they can't help a lot of it. When you work full-time and then want to have time to do chores, cook, have friends, be with your significant other, and have hobbies, you have to pretend that some of those things are free time. I am lucky enough to not work full-time (and I am pretty poor because of it) but I know that I am happier with less on my plate. Working full-time would give me financial freedom, and would allow me to buy more things. Honestly though, how much do I need? And considering where I would work if I did work full-time, I wouldn't be happy so why would I do it? I'd rather have more time on my hands than money at this point in my life.

    1 year ago

  • TinsAndThings

    TinsAndThings from TinsAndThings says:

    Having a Not-To-Do list can sometimes be handy too. ;)

    1 year ago

  • ballandchain

    Katrina Balling from ballandchain says:

    wow. interesting point of view. I always feel kind of lost when I am not busy. thanks for the post!

    1 year ago

  • randompossibilities

    random possibilities from MyRecycledArt says:

    What happens when you miss place your to do list and it has very important stuff on there that you cant remember. I just go crazy...Lol

    1 year ago

  • dschlichte01

    Deborah Taylor Schlichte from TaylorTrinkets says:

    I have always been one of those people that tends to overload myself with too many responsiblities and then I stress because I can't get it all done. So I have always stayed in a state of stress and never allowed myself to fully enjoy the ride. Multiple Sclerosis changed that to a degree, you can't control it and you have to prioritize because you are not operating at fully capacity anymore. I realized that I don't want to look back at my life and realize I didn't enjoy it or allow myself to enjoy my life. I work fulltime and have four dogs, so in a sense I still overload my plate to a degree. The difference is that now I sometimes allow myself the right to play and/or throw myself into creating jewelry and not beat myself up for it. :-)

    1 year ago

  • kikiparis

    Dominique Adeli from KidzCreationz says:

    im sure my mom can relate to that! awesome

    1 year ago

  • butler295

    elizabeth butler from Theartisanmonkey says:

    on my days "off" (which are few and far between) working on my crafts has a calming effect that not even chamomile tea can have. its a way to shut out the stress. I can loose myself in my crafting, the only thing I let myself worry about in my craft room is if the bobbin is going to run out.

    1 year ago

  • inapigsear

    Maria Corey from sowsearjewels says:

    For me, it's what KIND of busy. If I'm doing things I enjoy in good company, I love being busy and the feeling of accomplishment at the end of a full day. (By the way, I include being busy at home with only myself and my cat in that category. I like us.)

    1 year ago

  • PeaceStitchStudio

    PeaceStitchStudio from PeaceStitchStudio says:

    I'm a huge multi-tasker. Infinite internet windows open at the same time, working my craft while "watching" err.. listening to tv, working on multiple things at once -- way too much "do". A few weeks ago I decided to have a "do nothing hour" each night during my favorite radio program "Woodstock Jams".. just splay out on the bed (fully clothed of course, hee!) with the fan blowing on me, turn up the music and permeate in the moment of music and nothingness and feel the stress melt away. It's an hour I look forward to now -- the very best part of the day.

    1 year ago

  • EmSewCrazy

    Emily from EmSewCrazy says:

    We do need to take the time to rest our bodies and our brains! It is so important and so lost today. I think this article is right in pointing out that we are busy so we feel like we have meaning. We need to find our meaning outside of what we do. Then we will have peace and be able to rest.

    1 year ago

  • cjward56

    Cheryl Ward from NonisEclecticShop says:

    I totally agree - down time is essential to creativity and health. There are times I find myself busy - just to be busy so I don't have to think about things that are going on in my life. Unfortunately, many of us find escape (from ourselves and our problems) in busyness. So, when I find myself too busy to take a breath, I try to stop the craziness and find out what I'm trying to hide from. After all, even God took a day off! How is it that I'm too busy to rest or focus on the things that are REALLY important in my life. I threw out the list a while ago. I don't remember lots of things....but I guess they weren't really that important after all.

    1 year ago

  • CopperheadCreations

    Sarah from CopperheadCreations says:

    Balance is necessary! If your life is so busy that there's no time for introspection and allowing time to appreciate moments, then what's the point of it all, really? I read recently about a nurse who worked with terminally ill patients, and kept sort of an informal survey of their life regrets, and here are their list-toppers: wishing they had worked less, spent more time with family, kept in better touch with friends/family, and allowed themselves to be happy. I try to take notes from those at the end of their lives so I don't have to be faced with the same regrets at the end of mine.

    1 year ago

  • catswhiskers83

    cats whiskers from BohochicJewellery says:

    This post is so true as is the comment above ^^^ my mum has fibromylagia from over working amongst other things and is still programmed to be doing!! I feel very lazy if I dont do anything especially as I now work from home and look after my toddler but today even lol he has taught me to actually sit and chill and just play as this is when hes at his happiest so in turn I am now learning to be at mine!! I plan to de wind a lot more often!!! xx

    1 year ago

  • thelongacreflea

    thelongacreflea from thelongacreflea says:

    I love this quote "May you live all the days of your life." by Jonathan Swift. It is so tempting to go days without doing anything restorative. Being about the "life" part of living is important to encourage growth and inner strength. Each day I try to do something that will restore myself and the people around me. Whether it is a morning walk or writing an encouraging note to someone or filling a vase with fresh picked flowers...I cannot always be about the business side of my life. Some days I get so busy that I forget to breathe. When I realize this, I make a conscious decision to do something that will make this day count in the bigger scheme of things.

    1 year ago

  • threadedbeads

    Teresa Campitelli from threadedbeads says:

    I could not agree more plus creativity needs to come naturally it really can't be forced. When you allow yourself the breaks I think that one is more productive when you decide to work again.

    1 year ago

  • Marilynrd

    Marilyn Davenport from BitsofClayJewelry says:

    I don't write down" to do" lists,but I do have them. I write down shopping lists but usually forget to take them with me. I'm teasing, but I do think balance is a good thing to keep in mind, anytime. I cannot always finish what I plan for my day but I do try to focus on the most pertinent tasks . It usually takes more time than I think to complete a task. I think I can finish a piece of jewelry, whether it be polymer or metal clay, in less time than it really takes. I think I am superwoman, sometimes.

    1 year ago

  • vickshirley

    Shirley Vick and Mary Gary from byRickMarsh says:

    Like others who have responded physical limitations will make you "stop to smell the roses". I have been go, go,go. I am still inclined to be that way. My physical limitations does not allow that. I get the tasks done that are absolute "have to" then I have to stop. It does make it hard to fill your shop though. I often wonder "how does life do this to us?". Our world is what we create, it is what we make it. Goals are importat but they should not rule your life. Set goals and they will happen when they happen. Keep trying but don't kill yourself over it.

    1 year ago

  • avsoltys

    Andrea Soltys from PolkaDotPost says:

    I really enjoyed reading this article..and totally agree that people today feel the need to constantly be doing something. Everyone's lives are busy. I worked with a girl that was always doing a million things and felt the need to tell everyone..as if no one else has things going on..I do not have children so I really understand that people w/ kids have alot going on and need to be planning ahead all the time. I enjoy life every day and whatever gets done, doesn't get done, whether it's cleaning/work/whatever. There's always tomorrow, at least we hope! My husband and I live as if today's our last day and my coworkers joke with me saying my life is always "butterflies and roses" hahaha. I find it funny that people see this quality in me, it's how i chose to live and it shows!

    1 year ago

  • BeachBMXDesigns

    Maribeth from BeachBMXDesigns says:

    I know this isn't meant to be a spiritual/religious thing, but for me I try to live by this: If I am motivated by 1. Turning to God, 2. Serving Him and, 3. Awaiting His return, it influences how I use my talents, what I spend my time on, and where I spend my resources. Now, the trick for me is to remember to read this and think it everyday (LOL), I get so caught up in business sometimes, my lists grow lists!

    1 year ago

  • CaliPeachInc

    SHARMAINE SHANELLE from CaliPeachLLC says:

    Amen!!! This is definitely a journey!!! I appreciate hearing from others about how they are sharing their road to attain enlightenment or awakening. Discovering myself through my God given abilities/talents, has made me be more at peace in my life.

    1 year ago

  • jsmqu

    jonathan minor from Portalfotoswonderful says:

    I am relieved that you are speaking my language of the importance of this kind. I am also angry that you have just now written it. Why dont more people embrace the thoughts that are true? And why would I have ever listened to people telling me I must fill out this paperwork and fill in the lines with the procedures and tasks? I see some have given in to the modern belief that you must because you are told to. But the unexpected connection must arise no matter if you wait for it or not. Some people unconsciouslly victimize themselves because of their wounds. They uknowingly say to themselves "they make me do this and I have to work hard and I'll never have this thing that i truly desire" But they already have this ability to have this thing they truly desire and they have chosen to continue down the path of business. Which makes me super sad :( lollol but why would i be sad? they wouldnt want me to b sad for them right? it would not be doing anyone a favor.. I simply wait for them to come to terms with it. And the emptiness is filled with the will of the one which they accidentally serve. lolol why are big mouths even promoted here?

    1 year ago

  • JLRothCreations

    Jessica Van Eaton from ColorMeCrochet says:

    I am completely guilty of loving lists ... and getting things checked off! Sometimes I will even add those 'extra little' things that were not initially on my list but that I had managed to get done ... just to help me see all that I accomplished! I have to admit, no longer being a student has drastically reduced my 'attachment' to my lists (I am far more easily side-tracked), but I find them so helpful for reminding me of what I had planned for my day during the day before. It's probably also that I am a real planner at heart, and my husband prefers spontaneity for every part of life, so it is nice for my 'me-time' to have everything planned -- since nothing else is! :-) I do agree, however, that I find myself much more relaxed when my list involves things I really love to do (crochet!) versus things I need to do (cook, clean, physical therapy, etc). It is strange how hard it can be to find peace and relaxation in such a fast-paced world!

    1 year ago

  • abenchwick

    Amanda Benchwick from MandaBees says:

    I too am guilty of compulsive list-making that constantly carries over to the next day, day after day. For me it's become a habit. If I don't have a list, I feel like I'm not accomplished anything. I think another lesson here would be to give ourselves more credit for the things we DO accomplish, and not obsess over the things we have yet to cross off our lists. ”The space and quiet that idleness provides is a necessary condition for standing back from life and seeing it whole....it is, paradoxically, necessary to getting any work done.” Word.

    1 year ago

  • vcuencaecharte

    Veronica Cuenca Echarte from VCuencaEcharte says:

    Is the most difficult for me to organize!, optimize time I can not even ... very useful this reflection, thanks

    1 year ago

  • LizaJane56

    LizaJane56 from LizaJane56 says:

    So few words, So much Wisdom! :)

    1 year ago